Is Love Blind? What's The Big Deal With
by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
(c) 2004. All Rights Reserved.
Have you ever watched a friend in love do
things they vowed never to do? It's like they are in another world!
When the relationship is over the common
statements are, "I can't believe I did that!" or "What was I thinking
to allow that to happen!"
I have found love to be blind because it is
neutral! It doesn't see your faults. It doesn't judge you. It only
knows what's in your heart.
Yet, that's a good thing! Imagine love
having stipulations on how one should love. Wouldn't that be weird?
That's what millions of people do each day!
Love being blind does not cause people to go
through or stay in difficult and unhappy relationships. It's the
individual who allows themself to stay that cause the problems.
Each person has their view of what love
is. Thus, they take a neutral feeling and make it conform to their view
of love instead of accepting love as it is.
That's where the problems begin! The
different views of love often conflict. For
- One person expects hugs and kisses every
day while their mate isn't affectionate. Yet, he/she may show their
love by being a provider and expect their mate to understand that.
- Another person expects to hold
conversations about the day during dinner while their mate just wants
to eat and go to bed
- Someone else may like to cuddle and hear I
love you often while their mate prefers to show their love
and give hugs instead of cuddling
The point is once you tell love what it
should be you set yourself up to be disappointed everytime.
But it goes deeper than that. You must
identify the source or root cause of the problem. What causes a person
to tell love what it should be?
For some reason you seem to think you know
what's best for you when it comes to love! This stems from your BELIEFS.
That is the real problem!
At one time in your life you were taught,
learned or discovered what true love was and it
stuck with you. Consequently, when you don't get love the way you were
told or taught something must be wrong. You have to correct the problem
(make love into what you think and feel it should be).
Can you see how you can screw up a
relationship by doing this?
The solution is simple yet difficult. All
you have to do is trust love and go with the flow.
Things will not go the way you would like.
However, that doesn't mean you will not end up at your destination
(i.e., married, in love, with children, happy, etc.)
All I'm asking you to do is give love a
chance to show the way before you decided to take control!
Finally, if your way was such a good way why
is it you are still searching for love? Obviously, something is
Love is waiting! Are you ready?
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Shawn Nelson, MSA is a Motivational Speaker
and Life Counselor who creates guides, e-Courses and run several web
sites that help people achieve their relationship, personal, life and
professional goals. To learn more visit www.mrgoodman.com
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