in Love with a Narcissist
relationship gurus Steven Carter and Julia Sokol enlighten
readers about trying to love someone who can only love them self. Here
Carter and Sokol, point out signs and pitfalls of this serious
relationship dilemma, providing suggestions for avoiding the inevitable
traps of this negative affection.
(PRWEB) -- Are you in
love with somebody who regularly puts his/her plans, priorities, and
needs ahead of yours? Are you in love with somebody who doesn't even
seem to notice that you have any needs of your own? If that's the case,
you might be in love with a selfish and self-involved narcissist.
Are You In Love With
a Narcissist? — A Test:
Narcissism is not
just a word. It's an experience! It's an all-consuming, confusing,
vexing, perplexing and often incredibly destructive experience. You can
best identify people with serious narcissistic issues because of the
way they make you feel.
If you want to
determine if the person you love has narcissistic traits, here are some
questions to ask yourself:
Do you often
feel as though you are doing most of the work to keep the relationship
going and your partner happy?
Do you feel that
nobody is thinking about you and what makes you happy?
relationship completely organized around your partner's interests,
schedules, and activities (or lack thereof)?
Do you feel
controlled by your partner's up and down moods?
Do other people
tell you that your partner is “difficult,”
“selfish,” and “self-absorbed?”
Do you find
yourself covering up for your partner's inappropriate behavior?
Is your partner
making unilateral decisions that affect your life and well being
(“We need to move to Belize”)?
Is your sense of
safety and security regularly threatened by your partner's impulsive,
Do you feel like
a slave to your partner's ego?
- Is everything always about your partner
(with your needs and priorities obliterated)?
If you answered yes
to more of these questions than you want to admit, do we have a book
Steven Carter and
Julia Sokol introduced the term commitmentphobia in their
groundbreaking, million-copy New York Times bestseller, "Men Who Can't
Love". Now, in their latest book, they tackle the major relationship
issue of our times—narcissism. "Help, I'm in Love with a
Narcissist", shows why it's so easy to be seduced and swept off your
feet by a narcissist.
to ‘fall' for a narcissist,” Carter and Sokol say.
“They can be very charismatic and usually engender strong
emotions. They like to think of themselves as special, and at the
beginning of a relationship, they will frequently draw us into their
world and make us feel as though we are equally unique.
That's why getting
involved with a narcissist can be such a heady, whirlwind experience.
Falling in love with a narcissist is easy, but the problems of building
a workable, long-term relationship with such a person can seem almost
In "Help, I'm in Love
with a Narcissist", Carter and Sokol illustrate the common pitfalls of
narcissistic relationships, while helping readers come to terms with
exactly what they are experiencing. They also draw the connection
between narcissism and commitment issues as well as between narcissism
and addictive behaviors such as substance abuse, giving readers the
power to see all the ways that narcissism manifests itself. With
in-depth analysis, readers will learn how to cope with narcissistic
relationships and how to get help or get out.
Written with the
compassionate language that people have come to expect from these
proven relationship experts, "Help, I'm in Love with a Narcissist" goes
beyond a simple explanation of the condition as it helps men and women
avoid and/or learn to cope with people who are incapable of loving
anyone but themselves.
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