5 Ways To Have A Happy
Marriage That Is Loving and Peaceful!
by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
(c) 2004. All Rights Reserved.
Building a
happy marriage is not as easy as people think. The notion that you meet
the mate of your dreams, fall in love, get swept off your feet and live
happily ever after is very rare.
A marriage must be
worked on daily; and you must put forth some effort or it will
eventually fall apart and fail.
While there are
thousands of tips, the five simple strategies below will assist you to
enhance your relationship and possibly prevent it from failing.
1. No
Debates
If you know you and
your mate have proven differences in opinion on certain subjects, avoid
those subjects.
As an example, if you
are a Republican and your mate is a Democrat, politics should probably
be avoided. As the two of you identify new topics that could cause a
debate session, stop the conversation before it even gets started.
2.
Filler Talk
If you are married,
especially with children, break out of the habit of talking about
nothing. Many times, families will be sitting around the dinner table
and the conversation consists of, "Do you like your carrots?" or "I
wonder what is on TV tonight?"
Instead, change your
strategy to include real questions, showing real interest. Replace the
normal,"Did you have a good day at work?" with "Tell me what you did at
work today." Even if you do not understand everything being said,
listen with interest. It is not that you are so much interested in the
work, but your mate's life.
3.
Re-establish Old Traditions
If you and your mate
had a tradition of some kind when you first got together, dust it off
and breathe life back into it. Perhaps you met after work on Friday at
the local pub for a drink, washed your cars together every Saturday
morning, or attended church together on Sunday. Whatever it was,
re-establish the tradition.
4.
Predictability
When asking couples
the factors involved in the demise of their relationship, one of the
common responses is that everything in the relationship is so
predictable. When rebuilding a relationship, do not be afraid of
letting go of boredom.
If you normally hate
the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for
hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool
to drink and go join them on the couch.
Or if your mate
spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise
them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it.
When taking a walk
with your mate, stop and give them a soft kiss, say, "I love you," and
then keep walking. Take some chances and do the unexpected.
5.
Lighten Up
Often when couples
have gone through or are going through some bumpy spots in their
relationship, things tend to get serious. It could be that there is a
tremendous amount of tension or perhaps they are not sure what to say.
Regardless of the reason, learn to lighten up. Do not take every
comment, glance, or movement as a serious problem.
If your mate makes a
mistake, which you both will, let it go, or if appropriate, laugh about
it. If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself.
This will automatically start the process of tension breaking.
If you're ready to
discover how to improve your relationship within 90-days that make
people jealous, visit: http://relationships.mrgoodman.com
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Shawn Nelson, MSA is a Motivational Speaker
and Life Counselor who creates guides, e-Courses and run several web
sites that help people achieve their relationship, personal, life and
professional goals. To learn more visit www.mrgoodman.com
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