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5 Ways To Have A Happy Marriage That Is Loving and Peaceful!

by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
(c) 2004. All Rights Reserved.

Building a happy marriage is not as easy as people think. The notion that you meet the mate of your dreams, fall in love, get swept off your feet and live happily ever after is very rare.

A marriage must be worked on daily; and you must put forth some effort or it will eventually fall apart and fail.

While there are thousands of tips, the five simple strategies below will assist you to enhance your relationship and possibly prevent it from failing.

1. No Debates

If you know you and your mate have proven differences in opinion on certain subjects, avoid those subjects.

As an example, if you are a Republican and your mate is a Democrat, politics should probably be avoided. As the two of you identify new topics that could cause a debate session, stop the conversation before it even gets started.

2. Filler Talk

If you are married, especially with children, break out of the habit of talking about nothing. Many times, families will be sitting around the dinner table and the conversation consists of, "Do you like your carrots?" or "I wonder what is on TV tonight?"

Instead, change your strategy to include real questions, showing real interest. Replace the normal,"Did you have a good day at work?" with "Tell me what you did at work today." Even if you do not understand everything being said, listen with interest. It is not that you are so much interested in the work, but your mate's life.

3. Re-establish Old Traditions

If you and your mate had a tradition of some kind when you first got together, dust it off and breathe life back into it. Perhaps you met after work on Friday at the local pub for a drink, washed your cars together every Saturday morning, or attended church together on Sunday. Whatever it was, re-establish the tradition.

4. Predictability

When asking couples the factors involved in the demise of their relationship, one of the common responses is that everything in the relationship is so predictable. When rebuilding a relationship, do not be afraid of letting go of boredom.

If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch.

Or if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it.

When taking a walk with your mate, stop and give them a soft kiss, say, "I love you," and then keep walking. Take some chances and do the unexpected.

5. Lighten Up

Often when couples have gone through or are going through some bumpy spots in their relationship, things tend to get serious. It could be that there is a tremendous amount of tension or perhaps they are not sure what to say. Regardless of the reason, learn to lighten up. Do not take every comment, glance, or movement as a serious problem.

If your mate makes a mistake, which you both will, let it go, or if appropriate, laugh about it. If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself. This will automatically start the process of tension breaking.

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Shawn Nelson, MSA is a Motivational Speaker and Life Counselor who creates guides, e-Courses and run several web sites that help people achieve their relationship, personal, life and professional goals. To learn more visit www.mrgoodman.com

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