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Ladies: Three Things He Will
Never Tell You
In his new book, author Charles
Harry reveals the reasons behind men's sometimes puzzling behavior
toward love, commitment and relationships.
(PRWEB) February 7, 2005 -- Why are there so
many insensitive men? Not even men know for sure. But author Charles
Harry believes he's found the answer: All males are born insensitive
and must struggle to inhibit insensitive conduct throughout life. In
his new book, ‘Confessing with girls: money, lies, sex, and
insensitive men' (Bertram & Knott, May 2005), Harry exposes the
truth behind men's sometimes puzzling behavior toward love, commitment
and relationships.
Readers may find some of the points raw, blunt, and ruthlessly
unforgiving yet at its core, the content is factual and provides a
unique insight into the mind of the single guy. “Men are not
subtle animals,” Harry points out. “And neither are
our thought processes. If women could see into the male mind for just
one day with no barriers, what they would see is the first half of this
book.” Consider three points Harry recognizes as deep-felt in
men yet rarely, if ever, voiced:
The Love Percentage:
A man is able to love in degrees or percentages. He may love you, move
in with you, give you all the signs he is ready to marry you yet be
able to break up with you without a second thought if someone better
comes along. This is a man who is only sixty percent in love with you,
or forty percent. Women must learn how to ‘calculate' his
love percentage. His behavior will give it away. For example: he opens
the car door for you. But does he shut it? Trouble starts when you
don't know what the nuances mean.
He Loves You, is Committed to
You, and Wants To Marry You But He'll Still Look at Other Women:
If you know your man doesn't do it, he has the most acutely developed
peripheral vision in the history of humankind. No guy in his right mind
will tell you he is actually fantasizing about the sexy new sales clerk
in the supermarket or the bombshell who just crossed his path. But
unfortunately that's exactly what's happening. It's rude and
disrespectful behavior but the truth is: he doesn't do it because he's
dissatisfied with you. He does it because he's visually attracted and
it's his nature to briefly venture outside of the
relationship—even if it's just in his own mind.
He Wishes He Could Treat You Like
Property—If He Could Get Away With It:
Possessiveness is one of the most difficult developments a relationship
can face. It can happen to either party and usually is a sign of
distrust. But for a man, it goes far beyond distrust. The compulsion to
possess, especially a mate, is hardwired into the male psyche. As lions
are possessive of their mates, so are human males possessive of theirs.
The difference is men and women know it's unacceptable behavior and
deal with it, usually harshly, when it surfaces. And you'll find some
men don't deal with it as effectively as others.
Being male, why did Harry write such a book? “I'm not a
doctor or psychologist,” he says. “After being
recently dumped, a woman challenged me to write what really went on in
men's heads without the fluff or prerequisite dating advice. A simple
operating manual about men. This book is for her.” Far from a
self-help offering, the book is a satire on relationships and includes
more than a few insights you won't hear from your hubby any time soon.
‘Confessing with girls: money, lies, sex, and insensitive
men' will be published in May 2005 by Bertram & Knott
Publishing.
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