Common Relationship Problems and Relationship Mistakes To Avoid!
by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
(c) 2005. All Rights Reserved.
If you are anything like me
you would love to avoid
relationship problems. Unfortunately, no matter how hard I tried
problems seemed to hunt me down and attack me! Or, did I make
mistakes without knowing it?
are the common relationship problems and relationship
mistakes to avoid! If you can dodge them your life will
Moving too fast –
In a world where we have instant
gratification, people are interested in getting results now! The days
waiting for things appears to be over. However, if you take a good look
several relationship problems, you will notice that moving too fast is
top of the list.
your quest to be loved and feel loved you rush into
relationships with people that you wouldn’t ordinarily talk
too! Is it because you
are desperate? No! It is because you are tired of being alone and would
be with someone than with you.
sad part is the end result is usually a ton of
relationship problems and eventually a broken heart. All of this could
been avoided if you take your time and get to know the person.
at your past relationships and ask yourself, “Did I move too
fast?” You can
rush if you want too and make several relationship mistakes, but
about the outcome.
Believing what you are told
– It is common knowledge,
amongst men who are habitual cheaters and players, women are prone to
what men say.
It appears no matter what the
man does women tend to hold
the hope that, “Things
will go back to the way it
was.” Sorry to bust your
bubble but that rarely happens and the end result is usually
truth is no woman should believe what a man says. Nor
should you consider a man a liar. What a woman should do is listen to
man says and see if he does it! His actions must agree with his words.
important to keep in mind that while the end result may
not be achieved you should see the effort to reach it! For
the man says he will help you with finding a job and you see he is
your resumes without you asking then his words and actions are aligned
achieve the end result—getting you a job.
must see both of them (his
words and actions) heading in
the same direction; otherwise, you can bet you will get hurt and have a
relationship problems to deal with.
in a fantasy world – As corny and weird as
this may sound, millions of people suffer from this. Would you agree
that you have an image of what your dream person should be like? Would
agree with me if I said you have played out several scenarios in your
what it would be like to spend time with that person? What you are
living in a fantasy world.
problem is not the dreaming but when you expect the real
world to adapt to your relationship fantasy. Have you ever said to a
wrong with you? Why can’t you act
the way you should?” There a really
good chance you expect this individual to live up to your fantasy.
truth is very few people can live up to your
fantasies! Part of
the problem is your
expectations are unreal! To you they seem normal but to another person
would consider you a psycho!
me give you an example! For years you envisioned the man of
your dreams coming home, showering you with hugs and
sweeping you off your feet and having a romantic evening. When your
gets home, he may be tired, go take a shower, sit down for a few
talk with you.
a few times of this happening, you begin to get upset
with them because your “fantasy” is not being
fulfilled. My point is: 1)
partner is not aware of what you desire, and 2) How in the world
someone to do those things every single day?
And that’s the
problem! In your
fantasy world, people don’t get tired, people don’t
have lives, people don’t
work, people just shower you with the things you want and need to keep
in the real world it doesn’t work that way! If you want
to learn more about this fantasy world read Relationship
Relationships Based in Reality or Fantasy?
Not doing your homework
– In this case, I am talking
about getting to know the person. Yes, I am aware of the “chemistry”
between people and the feelings of excitement and joy! However, once
fade, and they will, what’s left?
the initial “lust”
period you set aside or overlook
the things that could save you from several relationship problems. For
you are with a guy and when another man looks at you your man flies of
handle and threatens the guy. You think it’s a little
overboard but like the
attention. Hint: It can lead to physical and
example, you are being showered with gifts but you
never asked for them. While you like them it does make you feel a
awkward. Hint: The
man is trying to buy your love
because he may not be
able to show he loves you or likes you in other ways. Consequently, you
feel neglected but have a ton of gifts.
simple relationship mistakes and oversights can cause
serious relationship problems. You can be stuck with a man who is so
that he would rather kill you than let you go. Or, you can end up with
who is successful, yet neglects your simple needs such as giving you a
attention or his time.
you desire to avoid relationship problems, the best thing
you could do is take your time, learn as much as you can about the
pay attention. Do not write things off as a one-time occurrence. By
you are giving the person permission to continue that behavior without
Not knowing what you want
– Do you know what you
want? If so, why aren’t you happy? The truth is you have no
idea what you want
or need! You can sit there and disagree with me if you like but
it’s true! Let
me prove it to you.
at your life and ask yourself, “Am
I where I want to
be?” I can bet the answer is,
how did you get where you are today?
Simple! By not knowing what you wanted!
Look, I’m not
you set out to be
where you are today on purpose. You made a few decisions based on what
thought you wanted and things did not work out.
what did you do? You kept making decisions without
knowing what you really wanted, which caused relationship problems.
get upset with the world because things didn’t work out the
way you planned it.
above I talked about living in a fantasy world.
Well, many of your wants are based in a fantasy world. It’s
not until you get
rid of them that you begin to realize where you made your relationship
a simple test! If you have done what you felt were
the best things for you and your life is not the way you thought it
then you are doing something that is not working for you! Notice I
it was wrong; it’s just not working for you!
you can better understand why you have relationship
problems and suffer from relationship mistakes. You have no clue as to
want! In the How
To Meet The Man of Your Dreams and How To Meet The
Your Dreams Guide, I cover in detail how to uncover your
needs so you
can meet the person of your dreams.
If you are sick and tired of
being sick and tired then change what you want and stop repeating the
same relationship mistakes and suffering from relationship problems
over and over again! What do you have to lose?
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