Why Do Relationships End or Why Do Relationships Fail?

by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
(c) 2005. All Rights Reserved.

I have always wondered, “Why Do Relationships End or Why Do Relationships Fail?” I knew I was doing everything right, or what I thought was right, and still my relationships ended. Talk about being one confused individual!

It wasn't until many failed relationships, and God only knows how many broken hearts, that I realized there were a few things missing. I never had the woman I truly needed because she did not pass the three stage test.

Now I know what you are thinking, “Oh no...he has to test people!” I have learned that people are not always who they say they are so, you have to see if they hold up to the image they present. Or, would you rather I end up with another failed relationship?

I do not set out to test them. However, by spending time with them life will present challenges and I will get to see how they react to those challenges.

Relationships end or fail for many reasons. However, I have uncovered three areas (stages) where all of my relationships failed. They are:

• Trust
• Consistency
• Life Obstacles

Let me give you an explanation of each so you can understand why my relationships ended.

Trust – I need to know if I can trust a person. Naturally, I give the benefit of the doubt until I have evidence to lead me to believe otherwise. This is the foundation for me, which also includes communication.

Consistency – The one thing that works my last nerve is inconsistent people. If you say you are going to do something do it. If you say you are going to be somewhere be there. If you know you cannot keep your word then don't say or agree to anything. Keep your big mouth shut! If circumstances cause you to have to be inconsistent that is fine! But to be inconsistent for no reason at all is just crazy!

Life Obstacles – This is the big one. Even if someone passes the first two stages most will fail at this stage. To be honest with you, very few have ever past the second stage. This stage is critical because how a person handles life problems will provide insights into their inner feelings and thoughts.

For example, my natural inclination during a crisis is to stay calm, devise a plan quickly as possible with the information I have and head straight toward the problem and conquer it.

Now, if the woman I am talking with decides to run the other way, starts complaining or just gives up then I have to think twice about getting involved with her.

Life is hard enough as it is so I do not need a weak woman who is unsure of herself expecting me to protect her. Either she will stand next to me and take the challenge head on. Or, she will stand behind me to watch my back while we move forward. Any other position will not work for me.

Now ask yourself, “Has anyone you have been involved with met or exceeded the three stages mentioned above?” I doubt it very much! It is rare to find that type of individual but they are out there.

However, I met a person about nine months ago; and let me tell you she will always be a part of my life whether we stay friends or it goes further.

She has passed all three stages without trying! She is truly awesome! Words cannot express how wonderful she is as a person. Like I always tell her, “You are stuck with me for life!”

It is my hope that the next person you decide to talk with can meet or exceed the three stages. Otherwise, you will be in for a bumpy ride! And remember, do not complain for you picked the person. If you are unhappy let them go! Unless you are married then try to work things out.

If you ever wonder if you have the right person in your life or you are attempting to identify that individual, you should check out the Meet The Man of Your Dreams and Meet The Woman of Your Dreams guide today.

Back To MrGoodMan's Relationship Advice Articles & News