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Starting Life Over Again!

by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
Motivational Words of Wisdom
(c) 2006. All Rights Reserved.

One day you wake up and realize your life is not what you thought it would be. “What went wrong,” you ask yourself. You get a little frustrated and maybe angry with yourself. Then the one thought you did not want to think enters your mind, “I will have to start life over again.”

Such a though makes you cringe because you begin to think of all the time you spent to get where you are and now you realize it’s just not working! Maybe, you will be one of the thousands of people who don’t start life over again. Instead, you accept what’s given to you and live out the rest of your life.

However, if you are considering starting life over again here are a few things to keep in mind:

Starting Life Over isn’t Necessarily Bad – While I understand you have worked really hard to maintain your sanity and to get to where you are sometimes cutting your losses and changing paths is good for you! The key is to make sure you understand how you got to where you are and to not repeat those mistakes again.

The Good, Bad and Ugly – I’m sure you’ve seen and experienced things you thought you never would. Yet, somehow you made it through the storm. That should tell you that you are strong enough to make such a change in your life. More important, you have what it takes to succeed and achieve whatever goals you set when you start life over again. Therefore, starting over again shouldn’t be a problem.

Change is Good – There are individuals who despise change. Look closely and you will see these are the same people who get left behind in their careers, in their personal lives and tend to suffer more than those who are more adaptable. When you are willing to change you open yourself up to receive and experience new things. It is these things that provide you with the nuggets of wisdom you’ve been looking for that makes a difference in your life. You can stand still and fight change all you want but it’s a losing battle!

Forget What You “Think” – This will be difficult at first. For some reason you seem to think that you know enough to solve your problems. Yet, if that was true why are you in your current position? Shouldn’t have things improved by now? At the very least, you should have improved in some measurable way! The point is very simple…get out of your way by changing what you think. It is your perception of the world around you that is limiting you! No one controls you but you!

Stay Focused on The Goal – When going through the process of starting life over there will be challenges. The key is to stay focused on your goal. If you lose sight of it then you will quickly adopt your old ways of doing things. Why? Because that is what you know and feel comfortable with. Here’s a tip for you! If the change is making you feel uncomfortable and you’re not hurting anyone in the process, then you are on the right track. Change is never comfortable nor easy! If it were more people would be changing.

What’s important to keep in mind is you must determine whether you want to start life over again or continue with the life you have! It will take some work! It will be difficult! But isn’t it worth the pain to finally live the life you’ve dreamed about all these years?

Based on my personal experience, it was worth the wait and work. It was very tough and I had to make a ton of changes in my life! However, I would not trade that experience and journey in for anything in the world. Want to know why? I learned so much about myself, the limits I placed on me and what I was truly capable of doing with my life.

What would help if you decided to start your life over is if you can share the journey with someone. It could be with a physical person or a spiritual force that you turn to in your time of need. Despite what you may think you cannot do this alone! You can attempt it but at some point you will need to lean on someone or something.

If you are serious about starting life over again you may be interested in the Stop Living An Unhappy Life web site.

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Relationship Reality: Are Your Relationships Based In Reality or Fantasy?
Relationship Reality: Are Your Relationships Based In Reality or Fantasy?
Relationship Reality: Are Your Relationships Based In Reality or Fantasy?

Relationship Reality: Are Your Relationships Based In Reality or Fantasy?
Relationship Reality: Are Your Relationships Based In Reality or Fantasy?
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