Understanding Men: Four Things about your Husband You Must Know!
When it comes to dating, there are so many things we know about finding and landing Mr. Right. But what about after you marry the man of your dreams? Author Charles Harry says there are a few things you need to know if you want to stay in love.
“We all know some marriages run perfectly,” Harry says. “But what about the other 99% of us? People sometimes can diverge in completely different directions after marriage yet there are always signs we miss that act as warnings. His book: Confessing with girls: money, lies, sex & insensitive men (Bertram & Knott, June 2005), is a satirical look at the simple things men do throughout relationships and why they do them.
Harry is quick to point out that he is not a doctor, PhD or psychologist. “I'm a man,” he says. “I didn't need a degree to tell me what men thought. I hatched the idea after a female friend of mine read a suggestion I had for an article on how insensitive men think. She challenged me to turn it into a book for her girlfriends.”
Here's a look at four innocuous things married men can do and what they mean:
1. Over time, married men eventually position their wives as, quite simply: someone to avoid. And that includes hiding small gaffes that are innocent in the man's mind, but would be translated as hostile by the woman. As these gaffes build up, an atmosphere of distrust is created and the man strives to hide more and more things from the woman. Avoid this from happening. He will think you are always looking for fault.
2. The fact that every time he answers an inquiry from you with ‘it's a guy thing'; it really means there's no rational explanation at all. In fact, there's absolutely no way it could ever make sense to anyone, anywhere. When you hear that phrase, it's ego talking. The more you hear it, he's on his way to establishing his superiority over you. This is trouble. It means he no longer will see you as an equal.
3. He can remember the theme song to ‘The A-Team', the license plate of the first girl he ever made love to, the scores of all the Bulls games from the last five years but he can't remember your birthday. There's nothing wrong with his memory. He's beginning to place you lower on his totem pole of importance. Not a good sign. Recognize it early and you have a chance of fixing it.
4. The ‘I can't find it!' response. It means it didn't fall into his outstretched arms, even when he was looking up. It means he's getting lazy. And when that happens; relationship complacency sets in. It means one of two things: a break-up is coming or you're about to enter into servitude. Watch out for it.
Confessing with girls: money, lies, sex & insensitive men (ISBN#0973409835) has a new release date. The book is scheduled to be released June 30, 2005 from a former date of May 16, 2005 and will be available in bookstores nationwide.
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