In An Unhappy Relationship? The #1 Reason Why You Are Unhappy In Your Relationship Is Revealed!
by Shawn Nelson, MSA.
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Have you ever wondered, "What is wrong
with me? I do everything I'm supposed to do and I still end up in an
unhappy relationship!" I truly
understand how you feel!
In the next two minutes, you will discover how you
complicate your relationships.
First, who said you had to be in a relationship
to feel loved, cherished and to have a good time?
Second, if what you are doing isn't working maybe
it's time to try something new and different.
Here's what I propose...stop looking for a
relationship and start looking for companionship!
Think about it!
Don't you want someone you can:
- Spend time with
- Who is truly interested in you
- Likes similar activities
- Fits your lifestyle
- And much, much more
...then stop looking for a relationship. When you
look for a relationship you focus on expecting
something to happen. For example, you get involved with a person hoping
it leads to a long-term relationship, marriage and maybe children.
However, when you focus on companionship
your future with the person is not important. What's important is, "Are
you two compatible enough to do activities with each other."
There are no expectations! Just
two people enjoying each others company. When that
happens anything and everything is possible.
Take a moment and think about your best friends of
the opposite sex! You don't expect anything from them in terms of a
relationship. Yet, you thoroughly enjoy spending time with them.
Once you have that companionship it can
develop into more. Remember, the key is not what it will evolve into
but are you enjoying yourself with that person!
That little shift in your thought process will have
dramatic life-changing effects.
Let me give you an example. I met a wonderful women
about two years ago. We became friends. While I was definitely
attracted to her and wanted to have a relationship she wasn't having
it. She made it perfectly clear it will be, "just friends."
At first it was difficult to be just
friends because I was really into her. Then one day we had a
conversation and I realized I was holding myself back by looking for a
I began to immediately separate and discard the relationship
feelings and adopt the companionship feelings. I
finally understood, after thirty-five years, I didn't want to be in a
relationship. What I was always looking for was companionship...
- Someone to do things with
- Someone to talk with who has similar beliefs and
heading in the same direction
- Someone who cared about me
- Someone who took an interest in me and what I do
for a living
- Someone who made time for me because they wanted
too not because they felt obligated
- Someone willing to give without me having to ask
all the time
- And much more
If you're still stuck looking for a relationship,
I wish you well and hope everything works out for you.
However, if you're willing to adopt the companionship
mindset you will have endless possibilities available to you!
It won't be easy! It took me about six months to
make the transition. However, I was ready and looking for a way to
improve my life. I am so happy I did!
I could never understand why someone would choose
to be with his/herself! Now I know!
Do yourself a favor and stop being unhappy with
your love life. Try making the shift and see what happens! What do you
have to lose?
There are many ways in which you complicate your
life. The ones I feel are the most important are revealed in the Life
Is Simple Guide. Visit the Living An Unhappy Life web site today and get your free
Shawn Nelson, MSA is a Motivational Speaker
and Life Counselor who creates guides, e-Courses and run several web
sites that help people achieve their relationship, personal, life and
professional goals. To learn more visit www.mrgoodman.com
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